Stopped Contact

Stopped Contact

When contact with your child/ren is stopped:

If your ex-partner prevents your child/ren from seeing you, it’s important to act calmly and respectfully to find a solution. Here are your options:

1. Initiate communication:

  • Contact your ex-partner in writing (email or letter):
    • Clearly state the situation, e.g., “The children were supposed to visit me this weekend, but you cancelled.”
    • Mention your understanding of the agreed arrangements, e.g., “Our agreement states they spend every other weekend with me, including this one.”
    • Ask for an explanation in a neutral tone, e.g., “Please explain why contact can’t happen.”
    • Express your desire for an amicable resolution to avoid disrupting the children.

2. Consider mediation:

  • If communication fails, seek help from a Family Mediator to facilitate a solution.
  • Mediation can lead to a formal agreement (Consent Order) if both parties agree.

3. Legal action as a last resort:

  • If mediation fails, you’ve taken the first step towards applying for a Child Arrangements Order in court.
  • To apply, complete a C100 Application (£253 fee).

Important considerations:

1. Child safety:

  • If your child/ren are at risk, immediately contact the Police and/or Social Services. Their safety is paramount.
  • You may qualify for an urgent court application without mediation if their safety is at stake.

2. Existing court order:

  • If a Child Arrangements Order is already in place and breached, you can apply for an Enforcement Order using form C79. No prior mediation required.

3. Communication limitations:

  • If you cannot contact your ex-partner directly (due to legal restrictions or unknown details), consider indirect communication through a solicitor, family member, or friend.
  • If no contact is possible, you may be exempt from mandatory mediation (MIAM).

Remember:

  • Seek legal advice if needed.
  • Prioritize the well-being of your child/ren throughout the process.

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